Monday, April 29, 2013

Family

I attended a funeral today that reminded me that having an appreciation for my family is essential for conserving a happy family. It's something that, at one point in time, we all lack. Sometimes the worst things bring together a family that was once scattered emotionally.

I've learned to appreciate my family this weekend. I've learned that, with my family, sometimes water under the bridge is the best option.

The funeral today kinda moved me and through the whole service all I thought was, "If only you accepted what she had accepted for 65 years of her life".

I love my family. Immediate, extended and otherwise.
They're in my life for a reason and whatever the reason, I value them all.

Reid Family Stats.
From my grandparents:
8 children.
41 Grandchildren.
73 Great-Grand Children
2 Great-Grandchildren cooking. (One due this week, one due in Sept)
4 Great-Great-Grand Children.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

Old Photos.

Family have been sending old photos, some I haven't seen before. Here's sister looking like a grumps she is.
Newsflash: She's cooking a boy due in September.
All we need is another Jasiah.

Olly & Reid. Hubba looks like Olly.

My Mum (with the guitar). She was 22 in this photo with 5 kids. What a trooper.

My Grandfather on my Dads side. If he looks Asian, it's because he is partly. My great-great-great-grandfather was from Canton, China. No one knows his first name. It's always been just Ahmu. That's Jeston with him (baby brother).

Can't see his eyebrows in this picture.

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Rugby Saturday.

Made enchiladas the other night for the MAC Team Building shindig. This pilaf was spicy. I didn't taste them at all and no one got food poisoning, so must have been a score.




Sunset on Wednesday.

Uncle Bills sells American Spices!

These two celebrated 1 year of 'dating'.
Fools please! Tell me when you hit 12 years of marriage.

Pizza making night at my cribb Thursday night during the Anzac game.

The PA Cheerleading squad.

Another loss to a team they could have easily beat had they woke up in the first half. They're no better than they were last year. There is no team spirit, but what can you do.

My brother is rocking a black left eye tonight from a tackle that had someones knee in his face. I had impact photos, but deleted them because everytime he got tackled, I felt it. As much as I'd like to knee him in the eye somedays, the guy is still the baby of the family and it hurts as much to see it as it probably was to receive it.

Ev.

My family may go back 3 or 4 generations with MAC, but what is it if there's no team unity? (and too many low tackles). Think I gave up on the team a few weeks ago. I follow them because family in the team won't switch to the team I'd prefer them to play for.
Havelock.

PA Sports Club need to look into Rugby Union.

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Aunty Moe.

When I was younger, she'd visit the Aunties all the time. She'd always park around the back and come through the backdoor despite it wasn't the main entrance into the house. The last time I saw her was when Aunty Marva passed and we were all at Ma's place. I don't think she recognized me then, it had been years since I'd seen her prior to that.

I only have fond memories of her and consider myself, because of the relationship she had with my Aunties and Grandmother, quite fortunate to have known her to such an extent.

She'd been in a resthome for maybe 2 years, so when her health took a turn for the worst a few weeks ago, I wanted my family to know that they had my support and love. I communicated for a day or two with a cousin who told me Aunty Moe had your funeral program in her room. I was glad to hear this .. that she remembered who you were, because I gave cousin a message to give to her to give to you when she got there.

If you haven't received the message already, you will.
It's the same thing I've been saying every day for the last 152 days.
That I miss you.

See you again Aunty Moe.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Flautas.

Eventually I had to get back into the swing of things. Ever since Tyler started making her own quesadillas, using a panini press, it was a goal for me to expand her Mexican horizons because quite frankly, her quesadillas were hard-up AND she ate them with Ketchup. Primate.

She's sold. Even the baby liked them.

Tomorrow marks 5 months. Still miss you more than ever and I thought it got easier, but it doesn't. You adjust, but the void is still there.

Hope they have flautas where you are .. and Hatch's Green Chili.

The Prayer.


I know it's no big deal to the rest of the world, but when your kid masters a basic food prayer ... it's kind of awesome. I have to shoot her talking in her sleep. One night she blurted out, "Oh S*#*! I sowwee".

She makes my day on overcast days.

Monday, April 22, 2013

Dreams

Before I went to sleep last night I hoped you'd be in my dreams.

I dreamed you had come back to me and for a moment mid slumber, I was elated. I could physically feel the happiness in my sleep, but knowing in my dream that this was just a dream, I woke up shattered all over again.

I do hate this.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Rugby.

Cold wet day.
Pirates took out MAC this afternoon in a game most would consider a hiding. Last I heard, the score was 26-0 and MAC didn't score at all.

A good clean game.

Ev played for Pirates 4 years ago before coming to MAC.

My brother told me tonight he was singled out by one coach, regarding a kick in the first half he made, during the half time huddle. What was said was enough to break a teams morale and was probably not a helpful addition to their loss. Let's put it this way, if my brother had walked off the field after the comment and quit, he would not have been the only one.

Team? Getting there.
Coaches? Need to reconsider their definition of team unity.
Tamatea got smoked this afternoon by Tech. 80-8.

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Day 145.

I'm a little bit sad today. Another one of those days where I think if I just go back to that Mexican Restaurant in Palmdale, you'll be there waiting with chips and salsa.

Not a good last few days.
Keep telling myself ...

Hard day.

4pm.

It's going to be another long night with the babysitters Dora and Diego.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

NZ

Today NZ Parliament passed the bill allowing marriage equality.

As far as I'm concerned, how people choose to love is their business and now they can publicly celebrate that. I choose to neither agree or disagree. It simply is what it is.

121 voted.
44 said no. 77 said yep.

I am glad however that a celebrant is protected if they don't want to take part in such a marriage.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Rainy Days.

Everything started to turn green a few weeks back. I noticed on my front lawn when I picked up apples for the goat. I hate mowing lawns, but the greenery is worth it. It began to rain today and it's supposed to rain til the weekend. Rain on Saturday will make for a good home game for MAC.
We were able to use the "brellas" Nan got the kids.

The fireban was lifted on Friday and there were three stacks of wood and branches ready to be burned from the pine trees my parentals felled over summer. This has given us firewood for winter.

It's also gumboot season. Tashy rocking hers from FCO.

Ngawi's lady bug umbrella.
He had his leg adjusted yesterday in Wellington and rocked his gumboots today too.

The new dog. No idea why they needed another one.
Dogs name is Coco and he's not as friendly as the other 2.

Ngawizzle.

Hubba.

Love the rain. Love winter. Love gumboots/snowboots.
Then there's this commercial.

It's about the new light proof milk bottles New Zealand has decided to use. They look like bleach bottles. I like to see my milk levels myself so I'll stick with my brand, that doesn't use a new fancy bottle. Watching this ad tonight all I could think was ... "I wonder if they used the LW Cow for this commercial?".

Monday, April 15, 2013

Monday

Good rugby line up this week on a club and international level.
In other news .. NZ McDonalds has jalapeƱo poppers.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Visiting Dad.

Broke the sabbath today and went to a rugby game (TA vs Napier Boys). I shouldn't make excuses, but NZ had the showing of last weeks General Conference and I'd already watched it.
Anyway.
Tragic game for TA, but we got to spend some time with my Mum who was on duty today (dorm parent).
Spent most of the afternoon at home then done something I hadn't done in about 8 years ... visited my Dad out in the boondocks Hawkes Bay this evening.
Tyler.

The Hedgehog & Rome. She was tormenting it with sticks so I told her that when hedgehogs get angry, they do what the face hugger aliens do on Aliens the movie.

Ness & Ty.

Rome.

Family.

I always look through old photos when I'm at my Dads place. He has the only photos of us when we were younger. Mostly my older brothers and me. I'd like to use these photos as proof that we adopted the other 2 because there aren't too many photos of them. Since my Dad won't give me the photos, I'm always taking photos of the photos. Last time I did this I had a logitech camera that had a resolution of 200 x 400.
This is me at the back of my grandparents Station Wagon back in 79.

I was probably 4 here and look alot like Larell.

Here I am in Samoa .. being Samoan.
Early 80s.

My two older brothers when they were probably 5 and 6.
Now they're 35 and 36.

In the photo, Shai was 3 and Nessa was not quite 1.
Shai is now 13 and Nessa is 10.

I enjoyed the afternoon at my Dads. After everything that has happened over the last few years that stopped me from going, I'm glad it's done and dusted. Life just wouldn't be worth it if it was left unattended. How I see it ... the worst part of my life was when you died. Nothing can undo me worse than that did.

Healing is moving forward without looking back.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Saturday Rugby.

My cousin was not even a year old when he crawled into the family swimming pool and drowned. This left him brain damaged and a quadriplegic. He was only 7 when he died. Today the family had his unveiling. The stone is huge. Easily the biggest in the entire graveyard, but it suits. Got to see my Dad and his side of the family. Despite that he only lives up the road, we very rarely see each other. My Nana was the highlight of the day when she held the microphone like a cellphone and spoke during her talk. My Dad kept whispering that she was a silly old bat, so when I'd giggle my brother would look disapprovingly.

The kids ate noodles by your grave and I left you a yellow rose from our garden.

Then it was off to rugby.
MAC vs Tamatea.
For a team that's at the top of the table, they should have smoked the team at the bottom of the table like how Havelock (3rd) smoked the Pirates (1st) today with a 41-5 win.


Here are the kidlets.

I'll say it again, fitness levels were down today. The bottom team gave them a run for their money in the last 40. As it stands, they remain undefeated.

Worst part of today.
We lost the Miomee.
Brace yourself .. it's going to be a long night.

Day 139

I miss you today.
We'll visit when we attend an unveiling later this morning.
Wish you were here.

Friday, April 12, 2013

Battle of the binkies.

This is the Miomee Orthodontic binky that's supposed to fix the atrocity that is her teeth. They aren't that bad and Rome's got better when her binky was taken from her, but I don't want to be that harsh (even though it was my idea with Rome), so I got the Miomee.

When I try to take Hubba's away from her, she's a loose cannon for the rest of the day and it just isn't worth it sitting in the closet rocking back and forth with a pepsi max and a snicker bar trying to restore your chi. She's accepted that she isn't allowed to bring it with her when we leave the house, but when we're home, the circus comes to town if she doesn't have it.

Hope it works.
I'm not forking out 6k for braces in the future.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Thanks Facebook.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

6th - 10th April

Let's go back in time 2 years when Hubba was cute and when we all thought she was the milk mans daughter with her blue eyes (they turned brown), when she didn't know how to answer back.

Barely a month old in these photos. Now she's one of those children who you'd like to return to the zoo.

So the missionaries who aided in Tylers conversion last year, The Farnes, finished their mission today and are more than likely catching the red eye out of Auckland tonight and heading back to the US of A. We had a ward send off for them on Monday for Family Home Evening. What made the event even more special, for my family at least, was the fact that we were able to utilize our marae, something we very rarely do.


It reminded me of my childhood when Aunty Hop would always be there and we'd roam the grounds waiting for piano lessons or holiday programs to start. I missed that. Jeston felt the same way. Just working in the kitchen with Aunties we hadn't seen for a while was nice and it reinstilled the purpose of why our ancestors built the marae. Since your death, our ward seems to have come together this year where it lacked last year. Our marae looks better than it has in a while, big ups to Aunty Kuini, Uncle Randall and their extended crew for that. It's quite picturesque.
These savages did a haka that was so loud I got a headache. (loud and great!) I tried to get a photo of my brother Jeston looking like He-Man during, but he was smiling the whole time.

Potluck.
Someones pigs had a good left overs that night.

I tried to watch General Conference over the iPod during the weekend, but I kept falling asleep. So I'll head down to conference this weekend.
MAC won against Hastings and are currently ranked at 9/10 on the points table, second to Pirates. I'm surprised they're above Havelock, but I think Havelock will follow tradition and take them out again this year. This weekend MAC will play Tamatea, who are currently at 1/10. MACs physique is absolute ace this season. I'm still on the fence about the coaches and still think there are too many chiefs and not enough indians on the field, but so far it's a thumbs up.