Sunday, October 14, 2018

End of the holidays

School holidays have ended .. for mostly everyone. I still get a week off because with labour weekend coming up, our school thought it would be better for the holidays to run through labour weekend to spare parents travel expenses.


Loquats .. they're tasty, but they grow everywhere. Someone needs to 1080 the loquats.

Saturday was spent cleaning up the Grandparents yard.

This is how we clean up.

It was freezing yesterday.

Coral, Tyler & Shaily.

Aavian & Hubs.


This morning.

Term 4 will be 3 weeks long with seniors and an extra 5 weeks with juniors .. then it will all be over and Santa will come.

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

One child. One job.

I've raised a confident child. She's already braver than I was at 16 and she's only 8. She has an opinion. She likes to fight her case and she's extremely head strong. I know it's just her growing up, but the last few months with her have been a little taste of hell. Hitting a child is illegal in New Zealand, but it hasn't stopped me from the odd flicking of her ear when it's absolutely needed.

I tried to inject in her that Mum is the boss of all, but the older she gets the more of a joke that injection has become. I know this is normal. I know that I am not immune to the wrath of a child. It's my first time parenting a child who is determined and hard headed, but I also know that how she is is a ramification of being with family where we, without thought, collectively raise each others children.

A few days ago we were sitting at my Mums. She walks into the house and I asked her to shut the door (so the dog doesn't come in). I don't want to. It's hot. I let her know we don't want the dog to come in. It's hair is everywhere anyway. Who cares. I ask her why she isn't listening. Because I don't have to.

I get up and flick her ear then my Mum, after hearing the conversation, tells me to leave her alone.

Honestly .. what's that teaching her? I just want to raise her the way I feel best to raise her.

While Stiddy was here last night I saw her watching me with him. She started to get lippy and annoying and I made her sit on the floor and tell me why she had such an attitude. After tears and shrugs of the shoulder she finally pointed to Stiddy.

You don't look after me like you look after him.

I told her that was pretty normal to feel that way when a new baby comes along. I told her it happened with Rome when Avi came along and that babies need more care than bigger kids who can do more things for themselves. She understood that, but for me that didn't explain her attitude for the past few months because he's only been here a handful of times.

You're mean because you make me clean my room and brush my hair and brush my teeth.  All the other kids don't have to do that.

This is where I thought, oh poor little demon spawn .. you don't know squat.

Long story short ... a little girl is going without a device and TV till December, not for punishment, but because fresh air and life can be found outside.

I was talking to my cousin about it a few nights ago. A proud mother of 4 raising her kids in Saudi Arabia. She said the best way to raise a kid is not to give them anything.

I'm not going to give Hub's what she wants.
I'm going to encourage what she needs.
Love her to bits .. but she's bloody impossible.

Sunday, October 7, 2018

Tea and coffee.

I've been researching the last couple of days. At our staff break up I got to talking to the science teacher and in her drunken state she wanted to confirm a rumor circulating that my family were LDS. Not newbie LDS either, a few generations worth of LDS. She was so interested that I decided to accept her in all her prosaic redonkulousness and answer the questions she threw at me.

There were questions I couldn't answer, like the temple stuff. She'd already looked on youtube anyway and if you're gonna do that, you may aswell turn to the bible for answers to your questions because they're all in there.

The most simplest question was the one that got me.
Is the reason you don't drink tea and coffee because of the caffeine?

I've heard so many different reasons that all lead back to caffeine. Then I heard it was 'hot drinks' that were a no no. There's a few versions out there, but I turned to Brother Google over the week.

I learned that black tea and green tea come from the same plant - camellia sinensis. How they're processed is what makes them different. In the process of making black tea, it's fermented. Green tea isn't. The claim is that both teas are ten times richer in anti-oxidants than any vegetables or fruit, but both are definitely riddled with caffeine .. possibly more than what's in coffee.

I already know that coffee is habit forming and overtime has been shown to cause health problems.

If you're going to be pedantic about the Word of Wisdom, then following it at all is a little useless. We are given commandments and precepts as a guide, not a must. We have our free agency.

So my answer is that I don't drink tea or coffee because we're told not to drink tea or coffee.
That's the only reason I myself don't drink either.
The answer was there the whole time. ... and I didn't even have to dress up like a bat to seek my own spiritual justice.

Friday, October 5, 2018


Family time with the farmers on Wednesday night. The Livians came later, when the camera battery had gone flat.

End of the year term party for the staff at work. My Mum made me go. If I did anything un-Christlike that night, it was vaping some blueberry white chocolate concoction from a co-worker.
Drunk co-workers are W-A-Y better than sober co-workers.

Spent alot of the day with AviVi today.
She's still a newborn in my eyes.

Off to the park.
Believe it or not, kids will become one with nature when you kick them off of their device. It forces them to have actual conversations with each other.

The holidays have begun.

Sunday, September 30, 2018

Primary Presentation

In the church, primary specifically, you work all year to prepare for the Primary Presentation. This is where once a year the primary kids rule the roost during sacrament meeting by giving talks and singing songs about what they've learned up to this point. Today was that day.

Three weeks ago I did something to my wrist. The nurse at school was convinced it was at least fractured, but the X-Rays said there was a break that had occurred before three weeks ago that had healed wrong and that I needed a cast. I didn't get the cast because I'm the only pianist in the ward .. I lie, my 89 year old grandmother plays the piano, but she plays sacred hymns double allegro, tripple prestissimo with a solid con fuoco resulting in it sounding like carnival music.

I played with a broken wrist. I was all over the place. My left hand was shaking, I hit wrong notes for the entire 40 minute presentation and SkyGo wasn't working for me to watch the All Black game on my phone from the black keys down the lower octaves. I vowed to go get a cast after the presentation, but then I remembered the All Blacks were still playing Argentina and ended up at home watching the last 40.

Indy - yesterday.

After the presentation.




She didn't like that he was on Rome and he didn't like that he was on Rome.

The Livians and a Shultz.

E peke.

The boy love.

... and that was today ... the last Sunday of September.

Tuesday, September 18, 2018


Sacrament meeting on Sunday was one of the best that they've had in a while. I think everyone has been struggling with church lately and although it was mentioned during the meeting that sometimes winter does that to you, it's not that at all. There are things happening in this community that you can't really come back from. I can't do anything about it and I have to keep on living.

Safer to stay out of things really.
Safer to be happy with what you have.
Safer to keep to yourself.

Work continues to bring me solace. It also helps me appreciate just being home and sitting on the couch at the end of the day watching Hub's roll around on the floor being crazy. If I've learned anything this year, it's to leave your woes outside when you get home. I've learned to let home be a place of comfort. A place to forget the worries of life and just unload by laying on the couch as graceful as a dead swan and as unlady-like as one could get after a day at work.

Photos from the iPhone.
I've been teaching him how to say his prayers before eating food. He knows to be quiet and listen during the saying of the prayer. It took him about two weeks to fold his arms and even though they look like T-Rex arms when he folds them, it's good enough! Next challenge is to close his eyes during. He watches us curiously during the prayers.
He's pretty clever .. might even be a genius.

Hub's is at work with me so much she got her own uniform.

Birthday present.

Pretty boy.

Pizza pie for dinner on Friday.

Tyler rocking the red carpet at the Waiata Maori Music Awards last Friday.

Want Need a new car.
Also need a payrise for a new car.

Sunday, September 9, 2018

What a week.

It's been a strange week here since the baptism. A few things are readable in the Hawkes Bay Today, where I'll place links to because I'd rather not detail it.

The highlight was it rained enough in a few days to flood our road below near the marae. It also kept me from going to work for three days, of which I grew withdrawals symptoms. I enjoy my job and after the first afternoon off, I was ready to build an ark and row to work.

I always said this place could do with a baptism and after this past week, you are going to agree after reading the articles.

Link One
Link Two

I thought issues going on here in and outside of the family would be enough to push me out, but after talking to Mitchy about stuff this afternoon we decided that we aren't the ones that need to leave. This is our home. What people bring into the community is their filth and doesn't reflect our community as a whole.

Also ... Livian got called into the Bishopric of our ward today. I don't know any person more suited for the assignment and they'll be a trio that will compliment each other and bring much spiritual mitigation to a ward that's been needing a lift for a while.

I got backs chaps .. still not accepting a speaking assignment, but I got backs.